Navigating Divorce

For me, the experience of a divorce was more than an individual death.  It was the death of the person, the death of the family, and the death of plans/dreams I had created for many, many years.  Your experience is not like my experience.  Certainly, your experience is unique to you and your family. 

I read lots of books.  I watched a lot of videos.  I listened to advice from countless people who wanted to help me.  I paid for lots of professional help from a variety of exceptional people.  Ultimately, I healed in my own time and in my own way.  One of the positive outcomes of the divorce experience is that I can now empathize with other woman on their own journey toward "life after."

It is imperative that you set goals for yourself.  At first, the goal might be to simply get out of bed and shower and walk outside sometime during the day.  Eventually, your goals will be broader and deeper and give your life different meaning than you had planned, but perhaps you will find the new plan to be as exciting as the old plan for your life.  

Will you ever date again?  If you want to do that, where in the world do you begin?  These are examples of things I help other women ponder.  Wherever you are in your journey, I can help you create specific tasks for yourself that will help you move forward.

For me, no transition in my life has ever been as painful as a divorce.  Most certainly, I find it difficult to ever think of it as something I welcomed.  However, eventually I could actually feel myself excited about what life could be for me.  Once I began to accept the transition, it became more bearable.  Healing does happen.  Scars will always remain.

That which does not kill us makes us stronger.  It won't kill you.  In fact, you will eventually be stronger than you ever thought you could be.